Steve Harvey: Act Like A Lady

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Millions of listeners nationwide tune in to the Steve Harvey Morning Show and hear the comedian’s opinions during his relationship commentary as he responds to listeners’ issues in what the show calls "Strawberry Letters." And now the King of Comedy has put his advice in print with his raw-talk book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment." Harvey talked with the Defender about topics in his book.

What makes your book different than other relationship books?

This book is written by a man about how men view relationships, commitment, intimacy, family, marriage, all of that and it's done from a nonclinical standpoint. This is just straight talk. I have friends who are politicians, who are entertainers, who are pro-athletes, who are truck drivers, CEOs, guys that work at factories…I know exactly how men think on these subjects.

You say, “a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love.” Do you think this is why so many relationships don’t work?

Exactly. If you have two different people with two different definitions of love and each one wants love the same way, somebody’s going to be disappointed, and it’s usually women.

Women are sometimes called gold diggers for trying to find men who are successful, but your book says that men will be too busy to focus on a woman until he makes it financially. So how does a woman avoid the title if she knows this?

Seeing as how there are so few men who are already successful and so many women would be looking for them, why would you want to get in line like that? In the book, I teach you how to find the potential in a man. You just got to know how to recognize it and be aware of his plan and buy into it…then both of you get there together. Then you have rights to it, and if you get a divorce, hello!

You agree with the 90-day rule on sex and compare it to a job. What makes you think 90 days is enough?

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